Christian discovery, Self-awareness

There is no neutral

“Please tell me you’re having a boy.”

I read concern and maybe a little disgust on the waitress’s face as she surveyed by belly, 9 months ripe.

My husband quickly met my eyes, doing a quick read on my reaction. Our three daughters continued coloring happily on their kids menus. I was buried deeply in the booth, smushed on all sides by the beloved people with whom I get to do everyday life.

Although it was far from the first time I had been addressed this way, it still caught me off guard and a laugh escaped my lips.

“Nope!” I replied with a smile.

She proceeded to turn to my husband. “Man, I feel sorry for you.”

“Don’t!” he immediately responded.

She shrugged and walked away to fill our drink orders.


I wonder why comments like these are so commonplace. Is there a cultural understanding that a ‘successful’ or ‘good’ life must include children of both genders? Should there ever be a lack of gratitude for an amazing gift?

“Since everything God created is good, we should not reject any of it but receive it with thanks.” 1 Timothy 4:4

“Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

“And whatever you do or say, do it was a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father.” Colossians 3:17

Our waitress obviously did not grasp the magnitude of the miraculous blessing growing in my womb. She was unaware of the journey I have been on and how undeserving I am of the life I am every day gifted to live.

Discontentment is contagious. So is gratitude. Let’s be careful which we are spreading.

“In every encounter, we either give life or we drain it. There is no neutral exchange.” Brennan Manning


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